Flux

Today is all about getting back to work.

Cue inconvenient timing:

–headache–

I’m still reflecting on all the family time this past weekend, and feeling generally grateful.

My thoughts have turned to the challenge of deciding on Thanksgiving plans with our family in a state of flux. There have been many changes and variables: my mom’s sickness, our marriage, David’s sisters’ potential relocation to Europe, my brother’s promotion.

Husbometer update:

Weeks Average of Score
1 0.62
2 0.57
3 0.54
4 0.55
5 0.55
6 0.56
7 0.57
8 0.54
9 0.55
Grand Total 0.56

A reminder of the categories:

Sex (Quantity, Quality)
Communication
Chores
Fitness & Health
Finances
Trust
Dealing w/ Everybody Else
Food
Little things

The first category landed some points for quality tonight. I wonder whether and how these categories might change as we grow old.

Tonight also featured a meet-and-greet with Frances, of Tony and Frances. They are entrepreneurs and investors that focus their energy on mentoring people toward personal and financial goals. I met the couple through my childhood best friend, Olivia.

Meanwhile on our bedroom computer… Giants win 27-23 vs. San Fran!

Scuttle

In the morning, I scuttled from my accommodations at the home of Ms. Lawley (in West Henrietta) to the grad student AirBnb (near downtown Rochester). The blue, two-bedroom AirBnb reminded me of the apartment I shared with Vicky and Sidney in Syracuse. I checked in, dropped my things and walked to the conference center.

From 1pm-2:15pm, I served as a monitor for an interactive session on “cultivating empathy in librarianship”.

From there, it’s all a happy blur: meeting with friends in the exhibit hall, session sampling, sweets, beer and tofu wrap at Drifters, pizza in the presidential suite, reuniting with Lane Lawley and company, reception at the Strong Museum of Play, late night talent show with Urban Librarians Unite.

David and I had light-touch communications. In his work world, he prepared to make a switch to “product side”. I’ve come to understand it’s like the research and development side of marketing.

Zippity Do Da

Getting excited over here. Fresh out of online class (IST 613: Library Planning, Marketing and Assessment).

Text: inside the brain of a grad student...

TO-DOO da-day!

Immediate future

Tomorrow

  • Organize plan of attack for work (tomorrow and beyond)
    • Stakeholder surveys
      • Compile library campaign contacts (or use Nationbuilder database?)
    • Staff surveys
  • Use  form results to create service recommendation
  • Residual or ongoing tasks
    • Donor postcard
    • Social media upkeep
      • NYT article author quotes (multiple platforms)
      • Vineland (remaining posts on social media schedule)
  • Internship paperwork
    • Print and re-share evaluation
    • Resubmit assignment

Beyond

  • Assessment report
    • Prioritize completion of section 1
      • Earmark assessment worksheets
  • Project management refresher
    • Answer course module prompts
    • Skim Lynda course content
  • Submit job applications
    • Development work: Resume / CV / Portfolio
  • Miscellaneous
    • Check-in with finances
    • Touch base with fitness plan
    • Review community garden bylaws
    • Research my ballot before November 6th
    • Complete wedding thank you notes

Oh, husband. I am thinking back on last night. We were talking about plans for Thanksgiving and family. I think you were upset by the conversation. When the conversation changed, the mood remained. I heard you say something about our neighborhood using the word indigents. I perceived a negative (belittling) connotation and said so in my critical response.

Word of the day:

Indigent

in·di·gent
/ˈindəjənt/

Adjective

1suffering from extreme poverty IMPOVERISHED

2  aarchaic DEFICIENT
    barchaic totally lacking in something specified

I woke up too early, feeling troubled. I worked it out with yoga by candlelight, early breakfast, and pleasure reading Anne of Green Gables. You came looking for me around 6am. We returned to bed together, with plenty of time to spare for pre-work cuddling and canoodling.

So far it seems easy to find our way back from most emotional side trails.

Cathartic

Scene 1

I am at work. I am talking with Patrick and I use the word cathartic in a sentence. I like the way it comes out of my mouth, and I compliment the word. I dub it my word of the day.

Word of the day:

Cathartic

ca·thar·tic
/kəˈTHärdik/

Adjective

Catharsis and cathartic both trace to the Greek word kathairein, meaning “to cleanse, purge.” Catharsis entered English as a medical term having to do with purging the body—and especially the bowels—of unwanted material. The adjective cathartic centered English with a meaning descriptive of such a physically cleansing purge. It didn’t take long for people to start using these words figuratively in reference to emotional release and spiritual cleansing.

Scene 2

Work is progressing.

I use a quote design website to create some shareable, post-able social media content. The quote content is sourced from the recent New York Times article “12 Authors Write About the Libraries They Love“.

 

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Scene 3

After work, I go to the gym. I return home from the gym and empty the contents of the fridge into my digestive system.

When Anya arrives home, she and I have a reflective talk about identity and marginalization. The conversation begins when she compares the vibes given off by two people who spoke with her Julliard class.

Scene 4

I fill in the husbometer spreadsheet with today’s data and observe that the average is stable. David – fresh from the shower – takes a look at the data with me.

Week Average of Score
1 0.62
2 0.57
3 0.54
4 0.55
5 0.55
6 0.56
7 0.56
Grand Total 0.56

– END –

Life

I slept well last night.

While I spend time with my mom, David and I are still apart. We’ve returned to our middle distance relationship habit of communicating via Google Chat.

Mom is doing better. Her walking improved and the wound-draining slowed.

I filled my day with mini projects from work, school and life around me.

Today’s work-related Google searches:

“learn to love social media scheduling”

“how to have a regular relationship with social media for your business”

“how to post regularly on social media and enjoy it”

“hate doing social media scheduling?”

My current class is challenging me to think about library planning, marketing and assessment – and how that can be applied to my current political action work for libraries.

Other items on the highlights reel:

  • making marshmallows in the fireplace
  • driving old blue and hiking in the UConn Forest
  • attending online synchronous class session
  • veggies burgers and spaghetti
  • finally starting laundry from the California trip

I liked hearing the sound of UConn marching band rehearsal through the woods during my hike. I messaged with David about career and family planning.

Plugging along with husbometer data from a distance. I guess I should leave categories blank when we’re doing distance?

Sex (Quantity, Quality) 10/23/18 6
Communication 10/23/18 0.6 6
Chores 10/23/18 6
Fitness & Health 10/23/18 6
Cashflow 10/23/18 6
Friendship 10/23/18 0.6 6
Dealing w/ Everybody Else 10/23/18 0.6 6
Food 10/23/18 6
Little things 10/23/18 0.5 6

It causes me to realize that my husbometer categories are flawed. Reality may necessarily cause us to break from reporting in some of these categories. It also challenges me to consider management of my own expectations. What would happen if I ranked these categories in terms of importance to me? Why would I rank them that way?

  1. Communication
  2. Fitness and health
  3. Friendship

The “little things” and “friendship” categories are similar, I’m realizing. In recording data, I’ve also noted a relationship between the friendship and communication categories.

Communication is increasingly important to me. So much revolves around communication: emotions, trust, sense of friendship, support, self, and future direction.

Fitness and health comes next. We lose a lot without some steady investment in that category. Sex is related to this category, and I think I take it for granted that this category consistently skews above-average…

My criteria for rating each category is a little willy-nilly. It’s based on memory and instinct.

Past Bedtime

Husbometer data is coming along.

Weeks Average of Score
1 0.62
2 0.57
3 0.54
4 0.55
Grand Total 0.57

David and I are eating stress sandwiches at work. My commute is slowly killing me. We come home and initiate immediate cuddle therapy. David encouraged me to gym when I was low on energy and it helped.

I am not as prepared for my conference as I would like to be… Alas, it begins tomorrow and Friday. I will have to make-do.

Time for sleep.